DYING FOR A DRINK
by Anderson Spickard, and Barbara R. Thompson
1. A Spreading Epidemic
2. It Could Never Happen To Me
Factors increasing Alcoholism Risk - Family Tree, Crisis, Culture
3. How Much Is Too Much?
There are "instant addicts"; Heavy drinking, or frequent drunkedness, is a major factor in addiction.; There are no safe forms of alcohol; There are no safe amounts of alcohol
4. Journey Into Despair - Story of an alcoholic physician
5. Abuse vs Addiction
Abusers can choose when or how much to drink.
6. Warning Signs
Sickness of Spirit - they violate their values; Sickness of the Mind & Emotions - Rationalization, Projection, Mood Swings, Personality Change, Blackouts, Social Symptoms, Physical Symptoms - often late
7. Don't Call Me An Alcoholic!
Denial is major symptom.Alcoholic is last to accept
8. The Supporting Cast.
Chemical Damage to Judgment & Memory; Reprssion; Enabling
Missed Diagnosis: It Couldn't Happen in Our Church; On the Job- "He is not a Bad Fellow."
9. A Wife's Point Of View
Wife needs to first accept responsibility for her own actions (detach), & then to let the alcoholic accept responsibility for theirs
10. The Family Trap
Every alcoholic deeply affects at least four people
-Results in average family waiting 7 years to admit diagnosis
9/10 men LEAVE alcoholic wives
11. "Somebody's Going To Get It!"
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome may result from any level of alcohol use in pregnancy; Alcoholics are poor parents; Paralysis of the nondrinking parent; Crisis of Confidence
12. Games Children Play
They often lock themselves into rigid roles to cope
The Reponsible Child = Hero
Almost all children of alcoholics grow up declaring "It will never happen to me." ACOA carry a time bomb ready to explode = 30% will marry alcoholics; 50% will bcome alcoholics; The passage of time does NOT heal them
13. Five Myths of Addiction
1)The alcoholic must want help before he can get it
Alcoholism is a PROGRESSIVE DISEASE.
14. Steps of Preparation - For Confrontation = Intervention,
1) Intercessary Prayer
15. Confrontation = Intervention
This method was pioneered Vernon Johnson in Minnesota to successfully interupt the downward spiral of addiction for thousands of alcoholics & their families. It is a loving non-judgmental way of breaking DENIAL. Steps in doing an intervention are
1) Finding Professional Help
16. Decision Time
Once faced with loving sharing from loved ones during the intervention, the alcoholic has to make the decision to obtain help.
17. Some Words of Caution
Using only spiritual approaches like prayer, Bible study, and attending church services is rarely effective.
1) No alcoholic should be left alone during the period of physical withdrawal - 15-20% of alcoholics who suffer from DTs die
18. Paths to Sobriety
Option 1) Inpatient Treatment at an Alcohol Rehab Centre Option 2) Outpatient Treatment, Option 3) Alcoholics Anonymous - Attend 90 AA meetings in 90 days, working the 12 steps, and using a sponsor / mentor.
19. When the Honeymoon Ends
The alcoholic must relearn the art of everyday living and begin to assume responsibilities. He must work on issues of the past including childhood issues. He should not be given positions of leadership in the church too soon.
20. Guidelines for Recovering Alcoholics -
1) Avoid old drinking friends
21. Family Recovery
Family problems do NOT disappear after alcoholic is sober
1) Identify the problems
23. Call to Action